NickHoupt: 0:03

What if healing your inner child was the key to reclaiming your truest self? In this open-hearted and deeply affirming episode, I sit down with Amanda Andrade, clinical hypnotherapist, intimacy coach, and author of If You Allow It, You Can Feel It, to explore the transformative power of presence, self-love, and emotional release. Amanda shares how reconnecting with her inner child and challenging cultural narratives of worthiness led her to a life of deep compassion, spiritual clarity, and empowered service. We talk about how buried emotions shape our identity, how hypnotherapy can unlock long-held patterns, and why letting go is not a weakness, but a courageous act of growth. We explore how to break through the illusion of not being enough, use emotional awareness to deepen your relationships, practice self-acceptance without bypassing pain, reframe your story through inner dialogue and healing, tap into play, curiosity, and the divine voice within. If you've ever felt stuck, unworthy, or disconnected from your true self, this episode will remind you that you're not broken. You are becoming. So take a breath, open your heart, and settle in. This is Life Well Balanced with Amanda Andrade and me, your host, Nick Haup. Amanda Andrade. I cannot wait to dive into this. I have a feeling that we are going to hit that time where Steven's gonna be showing us the time, and we're like barely done because of how when we met each other and and got connected through a friend, we had coffee and we were both like going over the an hour time when we're talking, then we're standing up trying to leave and we're still talking because we just kept going off on similar connections and interests and just the the open-heartedness that we both had. And I want to start with acknowledging you for the person that you are. We do this every time because as soon as I met you, you gave me a big hug and you just had this tremendous energy. That's one reason I wore a really bright shirt because I wanted to match your energy, and then we ended up matching. So this is perfect. But I want to acknowledge you for that, and just I am so grateful that you have accepted to come on here because I am very excited for our listeners to learn from you because I think it's something that not a lot of people know about, and I think it's something that when it comes to what people are going through, the traumas they've experienced, and the stories that they tie into themselves, I think that you can help break that mold and crack people open to live their truest best self. So I just am so grateful to have you on here. So thank you.

AmandaAndrade: 3:18

Thank you for having me over here, and thank you for all of the listeners that are open to listen what we have to share with them. And yes, life is about uh letting it happen. And whenever we open our heart and we open our arms to receive and to share, it's just the beauty of the beauty part of life, and it's the excitement to meet another being and to share difficult moments, struggles, and victories and everything because we are everything in life, and that's what motivates me every day in life.

NickHoupt: 4:04

I love it. So I'm gonna start with a big question. We do this every every time now. It's who, what, why? And the reason I have it so big is because then once we start going, we'll just continue on basically the foundation of this. So, who has inspired you, taught you things, mentored you, motivated you to become the person you are? What experiences have you been through that shaped who you are today? And why did you take those experiences and connections and step into this life and this work that you do now?

AmandaAndrade: 4:46

Well, I think we're gonna go over now the short story. Who was it and why? It was myself, it was my inner child that was seeking for something and seeking for some playfulness, seeking for some recognition, seeking for some answers. Why what life is about it? Why I'm here? Am I doing this every day, like waking up, brushing my teeth, going to work, stressing myself out, come back, eat, and sleep? Life is more than that. Why I'm doing this earth then? If death, it's the only sure that we are about life, and pay taxes. And why it's not fun, why I'm not having fun in life. That's how I started go deeper and looking for the answers. And what I found was more than what I was expecting, because you start to go in your core, you start to see, feel things, hear things that you were not expecting. That was beyond and waking up, though that kind of routine, and whenever I saw it, that was more than just being miserable with myself, being that frame, I was like, Yes, I'm going to that journey because I'm tired of being this box, and that's when everything started, and I was just like committed with having fun, but that commitment started to extend even more, and getting to know myself in my core about love, compassion, and everything that was the opposite about what my mind was telling me that I was not, and that's when the relationship started. And whenever I say relationship, it was with me and my inner child and God within me. That's how I I got started with everything, and um that was just a new day, a new uh experience, and a time for for self-discovery, a time to create, and a time just to connect. And each day got excited, and so it's still excited because life is still unfolding for me. But basically, it was still why? Who am I? What I'm doing here, what can I create, and what can I co-create with others?

NickHoupt: 8:01

So if someone's listening right now and they're going through the motions, we've all been there, and I know I've been there, and I heard someone say, you don't want to live the same year for 80 something years of your life. And so if I'm someone listening and they feel that calling of accepting their inner child or discovering their inner child, or they know that there's something more than just the same routine every day, what are some things that they can start doing to really connect with themselves or at least make that small step towards self-discovery?

AmandaAndrade: 8:43

Self-acceptance. Oh accepting that you are having that feeling at first. Because whenever you accept and you don't resist, you can start to embrace whatever seems silly because the mind will judge. But why would you do that? Why I would not do it? It really like accepting uh where you are at and having patience with the process and really drop the judgment. What people would think about if I do this, they will not think nothing if you start to think for yourself, if you start to judge yourself at first, because in the moment that you start to think what people will think, you are judging yourself for doing that.

NickHoupt: 9:45

And people are gonna think anyway.

AmandaAndrade: 9:48

You cannot control people, you cannot control people thinking, thoughts, you can't, you can control your response towards to people, you can control your response towards to the events, and whenever you step into that space of accepting your journey and the thoughts and feelings and ideas that it's coming genuinely for you, boom, the journey started. That's your inner child. We're all being child at once, yeah. And why we lose the ability of being playful, being creative, being silly, and be angry and being just like really expressing that emotion because if you see a child, the child it's in the core. If they are mad, they're going to express the madness. If they are angry, they're going to express the anger and then they let it go. And then they come back, they smile. Like it's suddenly they shift. I would say they shift dimension because it's the brain waves, right? That they have the ability, it's very subtle, they shift like suddenly. And white later we cannot do that.

NickHoupt: 11:15

Because sorry, go ahead.

AmandaAndrade: 11:17

Because we have a baggage of life.

NickHoupt: 11:19

Yeah. And I think we as adults, we start to just force everything in. You know, especially with with men, we've talked about it on some other episodes where growing up it's men don't cry, hide your emotions, hide your feelings. And I've I think that when you do release that, even scientifically, the energy that releases when you release those emotions. And I have a two-year-old at home, so I understand all of these emotions that get released. And and once you said that, it made me think about how she does go through so many emotions on a regular basis all throughout the day, but then she could be angry one moment, and then I could grab something that brings joy and show it to her, and then shift. Shift. So I'm curious how how can us as adults shift that energy or shift into a childlike moment, if that makes sense.

AmandaAndrade: 12:24

It does make sense, and the answer for that it's curiosity, being curious about it. And what happened whenever we are growing up, we are just suppressing and repressing our feelings all the time to fit in the societal rules, to fit on those um belief systems that men don't cry. Why not? That is um an emotion going through in your body and your system, but because your dad told you that men don't cry, and for you to keep the masculinity, you are just being programmed from that um upbringing, upbringing, and that input. And later in life, you start to realize from your own um lessons, I would say life lessons. People like to say problems, struggles. For me, over years, I've been reframing that for lessons, it's life lessons. When you start to reframing that and you start to allow yourself to allow your emotions to flow and don't tag your emotions. Oh, this is bad. I'm not gonna be mad because I'm crying. It's really questioning, being curious, why can't I why can I why I cannot cry? And then you're gonna find the answer. Yes, I can cry, but you're going to have that inner dialogue, right? Because you've been bringing that belief system, limited belief system, saying you cannot cry, but and then if you start questioning, why I cannot cry? Okay, what if I let it go and cry? And you start to break through, you start to realize, wow, wow, that was just like a thought or a belief system because everybody's going to address in a way that makes more sense for them. I always say that is a limited belief system. And whenever you start to break that through, you're going to start experience life in a different way. And then you're going to start growing because you've been curious about it. You're just like, what is the worst thing that couldn't happen to me? And you start to receive those messages, those divine messages, and then you're going to start to feeling your gut. You're going to start to have your intuition. It is really a practice each and every day, because each and every day is going to be different. Because we are growing. And that is the answer for that.

NickHoupt: 15:25

Now you were you mentioned inner dialogue, and I saw that in your book, if you allow it, you can feel it. You have a portion in there about self-talk. What is, and we've we've talked about this on plenty of episodes with different people that have come on because it's a major thing in personal growth and happiness? How should people talk to themselves? When they question, because sometimes too, what I see is you start questioning stuff, and then you start questioning your questioning, right? And so does that make sense, right? And then now you're down this rabbit hole of like, what am I even talking about? So, what are some main things that people can start adjusting in their self-talk to not the not the self-talk on the power of positive thinking, but loving yourself, accepting yourself, and understanding that you're not alone in everything you're doing. So, what kind of self-talk can people implement into themselves around some of those subjects or topics?

AmandaAndrade: 16:35

It is a great question because we all have those inner voices, it is part of our psyche communicating with us about what we've been through in that moment in life. So let's say um I am not worthy. We have that voice saying, Oh, you don't deserve this. Wow. Been there, we all do, we all do, and we need that space for us to break through and for us to be who we are, because without that inner voice, you cannot be now in here saying, claiming claiming that I do deserve to be in here because life is a gift, and I was listening that voice in the past saying, Oh, you don't deserve. And I was like, Am I getting crazy that I'm listening that voice saying that I don't deserve? But why I don't deserve? And then you start, it's unconsciously, you start to compare yourself with others. Why that person deserves and I don't? And then you you're going deeper on the whole, right? And then everybody's going to be different, right? So that question's gonna come, why I don't deserve. Oh, I don't deserve because uh it's just an example, okay? I am poor, I don't deserve because I am not pretty, I don't deserve because I am an immigrant, I don't deserve because uh of my collar, I don't deserve because this, because that, because that.

NickHoupt: 18:22

Fill in the blank. Yes.

AmandaAndrade: 18:25

Because everybody, and then once and again, I just give some examples, uh, common examples that people will relate it to that. Because whenever we compare, we go to uh we look for those answers of why I don't deserve instead of claiming I do deserve. And those inner voices is going to start to showing you the way to go, what do you need to reframe in that moment, and what you are willing to do it, and willing to do it and step out of your comfort zone. And let me tell you, it's not easy, not easy at all, however, it's worth it because you are claiming your power, you are claiming who you are, and who you are, it's love you deserve everything because you were created as image and likeness of God, and because of that we have we can have everything that we wanted, and as much as we are willing to go in that direction, and it's beautiful, it's it's beautiful to reconnect with yourself, with your core, and that inner voice is is going to start to change, okay. Why I am not worthy for that? Okay, you're saying this, but okay, I'm gonna just give a try. And what okay, I'm gonna have a fear, of course. Of course, I'm gonna feel fear, but it's it's not what it is. It's about keep trying each and every day, and embrace the fear as well.

NickHoupt: 20:31

You gave me a couple aha moments in there where I'm like, oh, this is good stuff, where you said life is a gift, and then that ties into I it made me think you said life is a gift, and I said to myself, that a lot of people don't open. And then we're talking about deserving, but gifts are just given. So we put this story in our minds. My wife got me on this years ago when we first started dating, and I said something, and she said, Well, that's a story you're telling yourself, and so I think that it's a gift that people don't open, they feel they they don't deserve it because the story they're telling themselves about the past experiences they've had, right? And I I'm I'm like baffled with what uh there's so much stuff I want to unpack in there that that we were talking about. I know with me, there have been times where I felt like I didn't deserve something. And back when I first started in in my entrepreneurial journey, and I would train salespeople and stuff, they would say, Well, what if it doesn't work? And I would say, Well, what if it does? And it's such a small shift, and you said it's not easy, but what I always like to say is it's not easy, but it's simple. It is simple. And what I what I caught myself saying not even that long ago. So just so you know, I'm we're all works in progress all the time. And I caught myself saying this the other day too, about some things I'm working on, and I'm like, oh, well, I don't know if I deserve that. And then I automatically click something in my head and I say, Why not me? And when you start to ask yourself those questions of why not me, it opens up that inner dialogue of, yeah, why not me? And then you start building that belief in yourself because you find out that there's not really any excuses or reasons why it can't be you, right? So I think we're we're so aligned in that, and I know so many people need to hear that, but let's kind of shift into hypnotherapy a little bit.

AmandaAndrade: 22:59

Yeah.

NickHoupt: 23:00

Because that is something I find very fascinating. And you and I were talking, and I was like, I'm gonna have her on the podcast, and I didn't even know you were a hypnotherapist yet. And and then we started talking about that with things in my past and everything, which we can share here too, once we start talking about. But what is hypnotherapy?

AmandaAndrade: 23:19

Hypnotherapy, it's really shifting that inner dialogue, it's really shifting your belief systems, your limited belief system. We are talking about life is a gift, right? I deserve to be in here. So, in my background, uh, my mom, she was um single mom. So my dad abandoned and rejected her before I was even born. So that belief system, it was just ingrained with her. She was just like carrying abandonment and rejection. So I was receiving that belief system, and then I thought that I don't deserve to be over here. So that was the root cause of like, I don't deserve. And that's how I reframed that life is a gift. I do deserve to be in here. And how did I find out hypnotherapy? Because of those inner dialogues. I was going to a therapist, but it was not resolving anything, it was not effective. Because after the session, good, but the inner voices was in there, and that was driving me crazy. And I was like, I need something effective through my life, for my life. And I started researching, and that's when I found hypnosis. Oh, hypnosis is gonna shift your mentality, your mindset. It's like, okay, this is interesting. If it's going to shift my mindset and my mentality, those inner voices can be shifted as well. That was like the aha moment. Yes. It's like, okay, I am doing this. And then I researching, and in that moment, I was with uh self-doubt about doing uh hypnotherapy with uh in a culture with an American, right? Because it was a belief system that I thought that uh American person could not understand myself, could not understand uh my inner dialogues because of the culture barriers. And then I looked it up in my uh first culture, which it is in Brazil. I'm Brazilian, so I looked it up for somebody in Brazil, but and then that in that session, I could not uh reach what I was looking for because in that time I was connecting with like how to connect with your uh universal family, your ancestor, like having like a past life regression. So in that moment, could not go through on it, didn't not happen, and that intrigued me. I was like, no, this is something that is, and also she mentioned that I could not access my past life because I have done IU Ask, and then I have do I have done like a quantum um therapy, which just uh shift your uh quantum field, but that answer didn't not sit with me because I was like, no, this is not truth about it. I I don't feel like it. And that's when I researched in here in the United States a school for me to go and start to learn more about hypnotherapy because I didn't accept that answer. And I was like, that is more about this, because I had that pulling, I had that intuition, that drawn for it. And that's when I start to study hypnosis and hypnotherapy and how effective it is in our life. And then in that moment, going through in the training, wow, it is the unfolding about belief systems and about like the stories that we tell us and for the entire life that we are not even aware. So 90% of our thoughts and all of our emotions and all of our intuition values are stored in our subconscious mind, and we've been operated from our subconscious mind, and we don't remember everything that happened in our childhood. We don't remember like memories at the age two years old, we don't remember at the age at one year old, yet we've been programmed in that age, since like uh a pregnancy until 13 years old, our brain is being programmed through our five sense, which is like kinesthetic, visual. So everything that we see, we've been programmed, everything that we listen, uh, olfactory, we've been like programmed on that and taste in olfactory. And so our brain has been absorbing all of that, and then it's going to the subconscious mind. And how do we have access to the subconscious mind? It's really like guiding your attention to something else for you to be in a state of relaxation, so we've been altering uh your brain waves, for you to be at ease, for us to access that memory. So in that moment, you stop to suppressing. And of course, it's the willness to go in, inward, and to do the work. Because if you are just willing to get out of your comfort zone and really go deeper, you're going to reframe the suffering that you are having. And so that willness to be guided, to access that story, that illusion that you've been telling for your life that you don't deserve. And in that moment, to release those inner dialogues, those beliefs. And in that moment that a person, a hypnotherapist has been guiding you, you are just like getting distracted for you to access your heart and for you to shift the inner dialogue. And whenever you shift the inner dialogue, and how does that happen? Giving yourself self-forgiveness, to like stop suppressing and stop repressing all of those uh uncomfortable feelings and really rewriting the story of your life. It's it's simple, but it's the willness to shift the uh struggle that you've been through. And it's it's beautiful whenever you open it up and then you just start to see the story that you're telling yourself is not true about who you are. And then in that moment, that you just like realize oh, that was. That perception that I have about myself. Because let's say, mom and daddy, you are having a situation with mom and daddy. And then in that moment, let's say mom is cooking in the dinner room or in the kitchen, and you're in the dinner room waiting, and then daddy comes in, and then they start to dialogue about themselves or life situation or something that they have been through. And it's really hard. And you are there just listening and waiting for like the food. They start to have an argument. They start to fighting and all of that. And you start to think that they are fighting about you. It's not about you, it's about the situation that it's been happening. They're so stressed, they don't know how to figure it out, how to bring money in the house. They are just like having that kind of struggle. And then after that, they don't come at you as a child and tell you, hey Nick, nothing this is about you. We are just having this um this hard moment to figure it out how to bring this in or how to um dialogue about this uncomfortable feeling that we are having because they didn't have that from their parents either. So they don't know how to communicate that with you. And then you're sitting there seeing all of the situation here in your situation, think it's about you. So you're getting that perception about that situation, and you start to uh identify with that belief. Oh, mom and dad don't love me, I'm not lovable, oh, life is hard. They are having this struggle, they are fighting, so I gotta I I need to fight for life and so on, and and everybody's gonna have a different um experience in the child that is being programming. So that is what hypnotherapy is about. It's going in the memory and to reframe the self-perception that you have about that event and really like unlock the truth about that. It's never about you, it's about the situation that they were having. But and then as as um a little baby, as a sponge, you're observing all of that. And then you've been programmed now, and you don't know where that even comes from. But you have been operating from the subconscious.

NickHoupt: 32:24

It made me think when you were saying what hypnotherapy was, I got this visual in my head of sometimes my my little girl, she'll go to run down the dark hallway and then she'll stop, and then she'll look at me and go, hold my hand, and then we go together. And I got that visual of that's what you're doing in people's subconscious, is you're tapping into that inner child and being the adult with a flashlight holding their hand to help them come and meet those situations that they've suppressed.

AmandaAndrade: 33:03

Yeah, they need. Basically, we all have needs, and in that moment, I am just being a guide, right? I'm just holding a space for you to go over there and meet that inner trial that is seeking for a need. It's seeking for safety, it's seeking for law, it's seeking to be there with you, to hold in your chest, to hold the hand and say everything's gonna be okay. But not only saying, it's really feeling because life is about feeling, life is about meeting you where you are at. If you're feeling sad, come over here. Let me hold you. Okay, sadness will just pass. Let it go through. Don't be attached, really just feel it and let it go. Are you feeling hurt, sweetie heart? Okay, come over here. I'm holding you. Just acknowledge the hurt and let it go. Don't get attached, because in the moment that we get attached on those feelings, we create a stories, and those stories they are not beneficial for our growth. They hold us with the fear because if I'm so attached to that story, I I cannot let it go. And that's my identity, and I'm holding so tight, but it's not my identity, that's the illusion about it that I'm created about that identity. Really meeting those needs, really being there, so being a parent, um taking being conscious about who you are. Because being conscious about who you are, it's being it's being there for your child.

NickHoupt: 35:00

So if someone's listening, you're talking about acknowledging and letting it go. Acknowledging and letting it go. I know someone's gonna be sitting there saying, Well, that's easier said than done. Someone that feels that way, what are some techniques they can do or some mindset shifts, or I'm trying to think of what I'm looking to say here. Do you know what I mean? What are some what are some techniques or mindset shifts that they can implement in their life and in their thoughts in self-talk to let it go?

AmandaAndrade: 35:43

It's a it's a great question because once you've been attached to the idea, to the story, how do I let go? And step by step, little babe steps. The first one I would say journaling. Start to journal your feelings, emotions, start to question why I'm feeling this way. Because once you find the why in the moment that you're journaling, right, you start to question, oh, I'm feeling this way because of this, but this doesn't make sense. Because in the moment that you are in that uh in that intensivity, the emotional intensivity, you are just you're blind. But you as long as you start to write in down, oh I'm feeling this way, really raw, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then later when you come back, because you're going to have a different mentality with yourself, journally, it's one of them. It's not easy to face yourself, right? But it's it's the way, it's it's have looking inside. Can you let it go? And then you're going to be open to receive the messages. Oh, I cannot. Why you cannot? Start to talk with yourself in front of the mirror. So powerful.

NickHoupt: 37:10

That doesn't make you crazy.

AmandaAndrade: 37:11

Oh no, that gives me freedom, actually. Okay, remember the judgment. If I go in front of the mirror, think, am I crazy because I'm doing this? You you're blocking yourself, you're judging yourself. And whenever you say, like, okay, I will be crazy. Because what craze means, it's a perception about something, right? Because if you say that to a friend, hey, I talk in front of the mirror with myself, yeah, your friend is gonna think that you are crazy, right? Because then he has or she has a perception about that, right? But you don't need to communicate that with them at first, you need to have like an unfolding conversation to the point that you're going to do that, right? But now that you're asking me, yes, I go in front of the mirror, I talk with myself. Oh, I'm driving. If I have those thoughts, I get the the mirror and I start talking. Okay, you're really sure about that. What if? Always ask, what if? What is the worst thing that couldn't happen with you? And then the messages will become, and it's easy, simple, and you just start to detach, letting go. It's it's an everyday exercise. Um, were you born learning how to drive? You you gotta go to the steps, right? No driving, but walking, let's say that, because driving it's another, it's really on that. So uh you start to to just baby steps, right? In that moment that you're doing babe steps, it's just like okay, getting more confident about that. You start to feeling safe about that, and then you become automatic. So then later, after you start walking and then you start driving, it's just automatic. It's going to be automatic for you to wake up in the morning, go in front of the mirror, or are you brushing your teeth and say, Um, what can I do today for you? Oh, I always ask, hey God, how can I serve you today? Little questions, critical thinking, start to developing that. Don't believe in everything that you see, don't believe in everything that they tell you, don't believe in even everything that you hear in your head because they are not true. It's a question, why? Why not? And and just little steps, and then you're gonna get that. We're all gonna get.

NickHoupt: 39:57

So we we're talking about acceptance and love. Let's talk about intimacy.

AmandaAndrade: 40:02

Oh.

NickHoupt: 40:03

I know you're very excited about intimacy. And do you want to elaborate on what is intimacy? You hear the word a lot, and a lot of people think of romantic relationships, but you can have intimate relationships outside of romantic relationships as well. Can you touch on that? Because you train in intimacy and everything as well.

AmandaAndrade: 40:24

Yes, that is correct. What is intimacy? Intimacy, the the the the easy way to explain that. Intimacy is the relationship that you have with yourself and then with others.

NickHoupt: 40:36

Into me, I see, right?

AmandaAndrade: 40:39

Yeah, it's basically it, and people have that like, oh, intimacy, it's more physical thing. Not at all. Intimacy, it's really like the the the intimate relationship that you have with your body, with yourself, the way that you talk with yourself, the intimate relationship that you have with God, or whatever you believe it. And whenever you start to open that space of being intimate with yourself and with God, you start to extend that to others. It's not really only with like romantic relationship, because everything is life, everything in life, it's relationship. Relationship with food, relationship uh with drinks, relationship with um parents, relationship with coworkers, relationship with business partner, relationship with money, everything it's about relationship. Everything it's an intimate relationship. The way that you care yourself, the way that you present yourself, it's the way that you extend that intimacy to others. It's really break this idea of intimate, intimate relate a romantic relationship. No, it's more than that. Basically.

NickHoupt: 42:09

I like that you said everything's a relationship. I never really thought about it like that. So, how can someone intentionally develop the best relationships with everything you just listed? I know that's a huge question because it's different for everything. But like a good relationship with the people around them, a good relationship with money, a good relationship with themselves, a good relationship with their health. I know with me, we talk about alcohol and stuff a lot with with my lessons that I've had, and I would always say I had a toxic relationship with alcohol. So, how how does someone intentionally have better and good relationships with those different aspects and people?

AmandaAndrade: 43:05

Yeah, sure. Uh self-love, before you love other, the your wife, your spouse, let's put this, before you even love your child, you gotta love yourself. And that you're probably gonna say, like, you're crazy. Yes, I am crazy in a way that how can I extend the love? Because if I don't love myself, how can I love others? And and people have this belief self, like, oh, I love others so much. It's just like it's being available for them, but it's really not loving yourself because you come from the point of lack, of self-acceptance, and uh, whenever you give for others and now you you're not giving to yourself, it's not really love. Because if you put in first, whenever you just uh you're serving other people, right? With like uh a water cup, let's say that. But for let me put this um because it's gonna be better. Whenever you're in the airplane, what is the first thing that they say whenever you're going through in a in a in a turbulence? First, put your mask and then you put others. That is the best way to describe how can you give love for others if you don't give love for yourself? You're not gonna save others if you don't save yourself. So, really, it is self-love, so then you can extend that. And once you are giving to yourself, you you are like flowing over flow, it's it's abundance, and you in that energy, you are extending, you are giving so much, and self-love, it's it's what I would say.

NickHoupt: 44:58

It's funny, we had one episode. I I have I used to have an apparel company, and I still wear some of my shirts, and it says self-love isn't selfish, it's something and we had that in one of our episodes, and he was talking about self-love, and I happened to be wearing that shirt, so it was perfect. And I've had that conversation with people too. I I had a a guy that was talking about suicide, and in the same conversation, he was talking about wanting a wife. And I let him know that he's not going to bring on that kind of a relationship with the relationship he has with himself. Because you can't give love to others if you don't have it in you, right? So, can you give too much love?

AmandaAndrade: 45:43

We are um life force energy. Oh, we have that infinity. So we were born into true love. We are love, so yes, we have like unlimited love. Unlimited.

NickHoupt: 46:02

I never thought about it like that.

AmandaAndrade: 46:03

We are eternal and an immortal being. We came from source, source is love, so we are life force energy. It's infinity.

NickHoupt: 46:15

Now, with everything we've been talking about, with love and repression and your inner child, emotions, experiences, we've covered quite a lot. With being on the Life Well Balanced podcast, I want to ask you with everything that you've been through, the lifestyle that you have, the way you live, what do you feel is a life well balanced?

AmandaAndrade: 46:43

Good question. For me, it is a dance about letting happen and making it happen. Giving and receiving that's what that means and once you're in that space of being, which is receiving, and giving, which is doing, it's yin and ying, balancing out those polarities. Boom, you are balanced.

NickHoupt: 47:20

Love it. So we we're running out of time here. You and I could probably sit here and talk all day. Oh, yeah. And so we're gonna do, we're gonna jump into our speed round. We do this in every episode. It's called balanced or unbalanced. And so I'm gonna ask you a question and you're gonna say if it's balanced or unbalanced. If you want to elaborate more, you can. If you want to just keep moving, we'll keep moving. Okay.

AmandaAndrade: 47:47

Sounds good.

NickHoupt: 47:48

So balanced or unbalanced, working through emotions by skipping over them with affirmations.

AmandaAndrade: 47:56

Unbalanced. You can always keep your emotions through affirmations. You gotta process them.

NickHoupt: 48:04

Being honest in a relationship, even if it disrupts harmony.

AmandaAndrade: 48:10

Being honest, balanced.

NickHoupt: 48:13

Balanced. Feeling guilty for needing alone time.

AmandaAndrade: 48:18

Can you repeat for me?

NickHoupt: 48:20

Feeling guilty for needing alone time.

AmandaAndrade: 48:24

It is it's it's controversial in a way, and let me extend that. Why are you feeling guilt because you need alone time? That is not a guilt on that. We need to have solitude. But because you're feeling guilt, that is a belief system that needs to be processed. So working first on process that belief system of feeling guilt of having solitude, and then you move forward.

NickHoupt: 48:57

Performing spiritually instead of living spiritually.

AmandaAndrade: 49:02

That is not a performance to uh experience the spirit, because performance comes from the third-dimension mind. It's it's it's an ego uh way off. Whenever you've been created, you've been in a spiritual flow.

NickHoupt: 49:21

I like that. Being fully present with your kids but unavailable to yourself.

AmandaAndrade: 49:28

Um being fully present for your kids but unavailable for yourself. That comes from the point that we talk about self-love kids and not being emotional available for them. Because if you're not emotional available for you, you cannot be emotional available for them either.

NickHoupt: 49:48

Mm-hmm. Okay. Processing old wounds through movement and play.

AmandaAndrade: 49:56

Yes. Balance, balanced, everything is energy. We got to be moving.

NickHoupt: 50:02

Sorry for the abrupt ending of the episode. We had some technical difficulty, but I did want to share Amanda Andrade's social media and websites. It is Mastering Relationships Academy.com, Mastering Relationships Academy on Facebook. Her Instagram is Amanda Andrade. That's A N D R underscore M R for Mastering Relationships underscore. And then if you are looking for some hypnotherapy, it is Amanda Andrade Hypnotherapy dot com and be on the lookout for her podcast, The Unscripted Journey. Thank you very much. We appreciate you listening. Make sure to like, subscribe, and share.